Emily Chapman reflects on her experiences of anxiety and depression and calls for better understanding and support for children and young people with mental health difficulties.
Over the past decade, I have had varying degrees of support and understanding regarding my mental wellbeing. In 2013, aged 14, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety which enabled me to access services targeted at supporting young people to improve their wellbeing. I was being bullied and attending a large mainstream secondary school in the south of England where the culture was very much about academic attainment, especially as the school had been rated as ‘Special Measures’ by OFSTED. Pastoral care was minimal and when I did see the school counsellor, the room was tiny and cramped. The space was important to me and this space seemed like an afterthought, consolidating my fear that mental health was not a priority and that no one really cared.
I was blessed in having a music teacher who took on a pastoral role for me. Unfortunately, the majority of my teachers lacked understanding or empathy regarding mental health difficulties, with one of them even saying to me the day after my diagnosis was brought to her attention that she had asked all of my teachers and concluded that I was perfectly happy. People are quick to judge on appearances, even when what the person says reveals something very different. Michael Rosen in his ‘Sad Book’, alongside Quentin Blake’s powerful illustration, completely captures my experiences of this: “Really I’m being sad but pretending I’m being happy. I’m doing that because I think people won’t like me if I look sad.”
I would love to see this being shared more. Despite the moral panic surrounding young people’s mental health, there appears to be little in the way of training for teaching staff to support children and young people with mental health difficulties in education. This needs to change.
My experiences of mental health support at university have been mixed. In my first year, I faced the same comments of “you don’t look stressed!” from my tutor. However, I have since received brilliant support from my GP and the university counselling and support services. I am currently working with my counsellor to manage my mood through psychodynamic counselling and techniques from cognitive behavioural therapy, which I am finding very helpful.
All of us can do things to support children and young people’s mental wellbeing. Sometimes it can be as simple as offering to listen. Increasing people’s understanding of mental health difficulties and fostering an empathetic attitude, taking seriously the experiences and disclosures of children and young people, could be the beginnings of change. We can be that change.
Sarah Hetrick, Coordinating Editor of Cochrane Common Mental Disorders responds:
Thanks Emily for such a powerful and honest blog. Helping to provide evidence to support health decisions about children and young people’s mental health is a major priority for Cochrane Common Mental Disorders. Over the next five years we will expand the number of reviews we publish that tackle questions about children and young people’s mental health. To do this we have set up a satellite of our Cochrane Review Group, which is based in Auckland, New Zealand. I am leading that Group along with the support of a number of experienced editors who are specialists in Youth Mental Health. But we want our new reviews to be shaped by people like you. To achieve this we have planned a series of priority setting activities over the next two years to co-produce, with young people, the questions our reviews ask. To start this process we are currently encouraging young people over 16, and anyone who supports young people’s mental health, to complete a survey.
Thanks again for sharing your story and in the future we hope our evidence can help inform the delivery of better health support for young people’s mental health whether that is at school, in the community or through healthcare providers.
Editor’s note: We are planning a special series of blogs on children and young people’s mental health for November 2019.
Emily Chapman has nothing to disclose.