Recurrent miscarriage and early pregnancy: learning from women’s experiences

In this blog, Sarah Bailey, a clinical research specialist, shares what their research group has learned from women about their experiences of early pregnancy after recurrent miscarriage, as they look to develop better support services.

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Normally, the early stages of a new pregnancy are a time filled with hope, excitement and joyful anticipation. However, for women who have suffered recurrent miscarriage things are very different and a positive pregnancy test often marks the onset of a time period filled with uncertainty and emotional turmoil as they wait for confirmation that their pregnancy is ongoing. You can imagine, if you’ve experienced three, five, ten miscarriages (some of my patients more than this), then any excitement brought about by a positive pregnancy test is often overshadowed by worry and fear that you will miscarry again. Because for these women a new pregnancy does not equal baby.

In my clinical role as a nurse specialist working with recurrent miscarriage patients, women told me that the early waiting period of a new pregnancy was one of the most challenging times they faced. This period of worry and stress impacted on all aspects of life, physically, emotionally and socially. They were so fearful of the upsetting emotions they experienced at this time that they often felt too scared to try for a new pregnancy and had to pluck up courage to do this. Sadly, some even choose not to become pregnant again rather than face this period of uncertainty.

It was the ‘not knowing’ what would happen that made the time so difficult. Would they miscarry again … or might they hope it would work this time? As humans, we like to know what is going to happen in a situation, particularly when the outcome might be negative as this allows us to deploy our coping mechanisms to deal with it. However, women with recurrent miscarriage have no ability to control or accurately predict the outcome of their pregnancy, they literally have to wait it out and see what will happen. This uncertainty is what makes the early stages of a new pregnancy so difficult to cope with.

New pregnancy after recurrent miscarriage is a time of uncertainty and emotional turmoil.

Despite the emotional upset associated with the first few weeks of a new pregnancy, many women with recurrent miscarriage do not receive any kind of therapeutic or professional support at this time and are left to cope alone with their anxiety and distress. Many research studies have explored the psychological impact of miscarriage in its immediate aftermath, but only limited studies have explored the feelings of women with recurrent miscarriage, specifically during the early stages of a subsequent pregnancy (Ockhuijsen et al. 2013; Ockhuijsen et al. 2014). This lack of evidence makes it difficult to develop supportive care to help women with recurrent miscarriage cope with the early stages of a new pregnancy.

What women have taught us about early pregnancy

In this our latest study*, published in May 2019 in BMJ Open, our research group aimed to develop a deeper understanding and detailed insight into how women with recurrent miscarriage experienced the early weeks of a new pregnancy, to help target the development of supportive care.

We conducted a qualitative study and recruited 14 women with recurrent miscarriage who agreed to take part in in-depth face-to-face interviews. At the time of interview, 8 of these women had ongoing pregnancies and were in the second trimester and 6 had unfortunately suffered a recent miscarriage. Importantly, the women who were pregnant did not feel this affected their recollection of their emotions during the early part of their pregnancy and the findings of the study were representative of both groups of women.

The research identified several major themes:

Turmoil of emotions

Women described a turmoil of emotions (anxiety, fear, terror, envy, guilt, betrayal) all compounded by the acute uncertainty of the situation. These emotions were often overwhelming, affecting every aspect of their life. Their distress was made worse by the fact that they continually ruminated on the outcome of their pregnancy because they were unable to predict whether the pregnancy would be successful. Instead, women focused on what might happen.

Because of how anxious I was, it was affecting everything. I was really anxious. I wasn’t sleeping properly. You worry about everything you eat, everything you drink. You just criticise and analyse everything you do all day long, all night long. Being anxious makes you anxious so it’s a real vicious circle– (Participant with 3 miscarriages)

Preparing for the worst

The women reported that they distanced themselves from the pregnancy, keeping themselves ‘in check’ because they didn’t want to let themselves get excited by the pregnancy. They were reluctant to share news of their pregnancy with family and friends and suppressed any hope of a successful outcome, fully expecting a further miscarriage to occur.

I need to be real and I prepare for the worst, but hope for the best and that’s almost a protective shield around me– (Participant with 3 miscarriages)

Setting of personal milestones

Women described how they set themselves personal milestones as a way of navigating through the uncertainty of the early stages of the pregnancy, living day by day and trying not to think too far ahead.

It’s one day at a time, that’s how we live one day at a time … I don’t think it’s a bad thing because we are appreciating emotions can change from day to day … rather than think about the birth we think about little hurdles … I try not to think too far ahead because I get overwhelmed with things (Participant with 3 miscarriages)


The women reported constant checking of pregnancy symptoms (nausea, breast tenderness, tireness) to seek reassurance their pregnancy was ongoing. I learnt about a whole new condition which I named ‘knicker-checking syndrome’! whereby it wasn’t unusual for a woman to visit the toilet up to 10 times an hour to check for the onset of vaginal bleeding, so convinced was she that she would miscarry again.

Do I feel the same as I did yesterday, are my ‘boobs’ still sore?… And you are constantly questioning every single twinge you feel and you are dying to get morning sickness so that you know you are pregnant – it’s just all consuming (Participant with 6 miscarriages)

Social isolation

The early stages of a new pregnancy was a lonely time. Women often isolated themselves from friends and family because they were reluctant to share news of their pregnancy. Similarly, there was a general withdrawal from social situations and social media for fear of forced social interactions with other pregnant women or those announcing news of a new pregnancy.

I didn’t want to speak to anybody, I didn’t want to face anybody (Participant with 3 miscarriages)

Women often isolated themselves to avoid sharing news of their pregnancy.

Adoption of pragmatic approaches

Women adopted some practical approaches to give them back some control in a situation they felt they had none. This often consisted of using distraction techniques or avoidance (blocking the pregnancy from their thought processes) and commonly women adapted their lifestyle to eliminate ‘risk’ factors

You stop more and more things. So you’ll stop doing extra work, you’ll start relaxing more. You’ll stop doing part of your exercise, you’ll stop eating different foods. You go through the most illogical things – (Participant with 4 miscarriages)

Need for professional affirmation

A recurrent theme was a sense that health service provision during the early stages of a new pregnancy was both limited and unsupportive. The women felt this demonstrated a lack of understanding of their needs during this time. When they did receive empathetic care from a health professional then it made a positive difference to their emotional well-being.

There is sometimes an absolute lack of understanding … I think generally the thing I would say to medical professions is that they need to acknowledge that this person is going to be slightly damaged. Massive things don’t have to change just some realisation of what a new pregnancy means to a woman who has been through all those lost pregnancies– (Participant with 3 miscarriages)

Research conclusions and important messages

  • Recurrent miscarriage has the potential to cause serious psychological effects. Its consequences can be profound and life changing.
  • Awaiting confirmation of an ongoing pregnancy having experienced recurrent miscarriage is a traumatic time-period often marked by lack of hope, anxiety, hypervigilance and loneliness.
  • There is a need to raise awareness amongst health professionals of the importance of supportive care during the stressful early stages of a new pregnancy following recurrent miscarriage.
  • The ‘soft’ skills of compassion, understanding and empathy helped to meet the need for support.

What next?

Our next challenge is to develop a supportive service designed around the identified needs of women with recurrent miscarriage. We are now planning a programme of research that will explore how we can best provide this much needed support during the early stages of a new pregnancy, but on a sustainable footing using technical innovation strategies (‘apps’ or a web-based platform).


If you or someone you know requires support around miscarriage please visit the Miscarriage Association website. The Miscarriage Association also offer training resources to support health professionals to provide the very best care to women and their partners experiencing miscarriage:


*Bailey SL, Boivin J, Cheong YC, et al. Hope for the best …but expect the worst: a qualitative study to explore how women with recurrent miscarriage experience the early waiting period of a new pregnancy. 

Declaration of interest: Sarah Bailey reports other from National Institute for Health Research , other from Health Education England – Wessex, other from Southampton Academy of Research,  during the conduct of the study.

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18 Comments on this post

  1. Thank you. This articulates so well the things I experienced, especially the hypervigilance and avoidance activities. These things lasted all the way until the end of my one successful but bumpy pregnancy (to the point of being in stage 2 labour and asking if our baby was going to born …). The emotional impact of recurrent miscarriage was huge for me and pregnancy was not at all joyful. I found it so hard to articulate this to close people who would say ‘just enjoy your pregnancy’. That just contributed to a deep sense that I was doing something wrong, which I already felt in spades! It is so helpful to have validating studies like this one, which recognise that support for emotional care is really needed for recurrent miscarriage.

    A / Reply
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  3. I’ve had 2 recurrent miscarriages (after my daughter who is now 6) and am currently 6.5 weeks pregnant again. I’ve been terrified from the start and at 6 weeks I cried down the phone to the midwife and she managed to get me an early scan, as all my pregnancy symptoms had just gone. They think this pregnancy isn’t viable either, as they could only see a tiny gestational sac, no yolk sac and no embryo. My HCG levels are going up but not doubling as they should. It doesn’t look good. I now have to wait two weeks until I go back for another scan (that’s if I don’t start bleeding in that time). I feel like I can’t think about anything else. I’m obsessing over it every minute of the day, I’m so distracted when I’m supposed to be working (working from home due to covid restrictions) and the house is a tip. Feel like I literally can’t think of anything else. It’s keeping me awake at night and I can’t relax. I just feel so sad. Surrounded my pregnant mums at the school gates and having to just smile through the pain.

    Gina / Reply
    • Dear Gina, thank you for commenting on my blog and I’m sorry things are so challenging for you at the moment. I am hoping you have a family member or friend you are able to share your worries with, or have you thought about contacting the Miscarriage Association who may be able to offer you some support?
      Sending my best wishes, Sarah

      Sarah Bailey / (in reply to Gina) Reply
  4. I’m in early stages of pregnancy after suffering 3 miscarriages, everytime I pick the phone up to make an appointment in epu or docs surgery I become to terrified of bad news, just feel lost and don’t know my next move😔

    Ria / Reply
    • I’m currently on my 9th doomed pregnancy in 5 years. After my son was born in 2015 we started trying again after a year and it has just been loss after loss always before 6 weeks. This current pregnancy I felt like by some miracle it might actually work out because for the first time in 5 years my HCG levels were looking pretty good but here I sit at 5w4d spotting and waiting for the enviable. They all seem to happen at this exact time. Now when I see two lines, instead of joy I feel dread but yet we keep trying.

      Elizabeth / (in reply to Ria) Reply
  5. 4 miscarriages, currently been told my fifth pregnancy doesn’t look good with 8weeks scan showing weak heartbeat and measuring only 6weeks 6 days. Zero support from any medical practitioner. Recurrent miscarriage consultant told me to “keep trying and then just give up.” I so wish to communicate just how harsh those words were and how any support and empathy from anyone would have felt like someone cared….

    Mrs Garner / Reply
    • Dear Mrs Garner
      Thank you for your comment and raising the important point of the need for support and empathy from health professionals at this time. I am so sorry to hear that you have had zero support. This must be a very challenging time for you. I wish you all the very best

      Sarah Bailey / (in reply to Mrs Garner) Reply
    • After 6 early miscarriages I very nearly decided to give up because I was terrified of ever going through it again.

      I fell pregnant again and this time, thankfully my hospitals care this time has been excellent. I had constant appointments throughout as goals , loads of extra scans and my hepatologist diagnosed me with an autoimmune liver disease and has been tracking it throughout with blood tests and with correct immunosuppressants to ensure it was under control, and I’ve finally made it to 20 weeks with a little girl.

      I have been on the other side of bad care and I only wish every woman receives the same care I’ve had this time. I wish it was written into the guidelines so everyone is treated the same .

      Vicky Jack / (in reply to Mrs Garner) Reply
      • Thank you so much for the reassurance it can work out.
        Unfortunately not for us… I have had another miscarriage which makes 7 and had ivf with ICSi and pgt testing. I was so optomistic with three embryos at day 5/6 and all came back euploid… but now every single one failed to implant and I’m still left with empty arms:-( and so we try naturally again… no medical professional interested in finding out why this keeps happening or how. We don’t have any more money to “throw” at it either so we can’t afford immune testing. I’m not sure how much more I can take… loss after loss after loss…

        Mrs Garner / (in reply to Vicky Jack) Reply
  6. I had two miscarriage and am now in the very early stages of pregnancy. Everything in this article rings true. Particularly the lack of medical support. After my second miscarriage I had to fight (and in the end travel 3h) to get any care/testing.

    I had councilling but it didn’t help. My councillor failed to understand I just wanted to talk, which is apparently very common with grief. The only support offered was to work though CBT on my own, tbh it was the last thing I needed.

    More support at this time would mean the absolute world to me. I already feel myself cancelling social events, going to bed extremely early and generally putting my life on hold.

    I think more specialist emotional support, but also more medical support could really help. It seems that so much is done to prevent/treat post natal depression, and so little to help emotionally pre-birth.

    Sarah / Reply
    • Dear Sarah
      Thank you for your comments and apologies it has taken me so long to reply. My research showed how common it is for women to put their lives on hold during the early stages of a new pregnancy following miscarriage. Many described it as a time period as one they managed on a daily basis and one they had to endure. I entirely agree with your extremely valid comments that there should be more of a focus on supporting women emotionally during pregnancy, especially for women who have experienced previous miscarriage(s).

      I really hope you managed to access some support

      Sarah Bailey / (in reply to Sarah) Reply
  7. Hi Sarah
    I am really interested in your research.
    I am a counsellor based in North Warwickshire and are looking at setting up something connected to supporting women who have experienced miscarriage in the form of support group or home based support referral from GP or midwife.
    I would love to know your thoughts on this on the back of your research findings please.

    Jane / Reply
    • Dear Jane
      Thank you for your interest in my research and many apologies it has taken me so long to reply to your comment. My research highlighted the value women with miscarriage placed on peer support, talking to women / couples who were going through the same as them. They felt that these women were truly able to understand the difficult emotions they were dealing with. So I think your plans for developing a support group sound great! Good luck!

      Sarah Bailey / (in reply to Jane) Reply
  8. Dear Kate
    Thank you for your comments and your interest in my blog. Pregnancy after loss is certainly a challenging time. More and more research is taking place around miscarriage and there maybe research studies running in the area you live. If you are interested I would suggest you contact the research department in your local hospital who would be able to advise. I’m not certain if you’ve seen the leaflet ‘Pregnancy after loss’ available from the Miscarriage Association, you might find this helpful. I wish you all the best

    Sarah Bailey / Reply
  9. This research and this article is fantastic. We’ve experienced 2 miscarriages a couple of months apart, 2 chemical pregnancies a few months apart and then been unable yet to fall pregnant again since. I would be more than happy to provide any input to further research, test resources etc. I live in fear of how I might try to get through a future successful pregnancy. Thankyou for digging into this issue – its so badly needed!

    Kate Cooper / Reply
    • I’ve just found your article and it is so accurate and helpful to hear.
      4 losses for me, 1 chemical, 1 ectopic, 2 missed miscarriages around 8 weeks. The last one was hell, the daily struggle of being so aware of everything you do and everything ‘going wrong’/not knowing. I don’t think I can do it again. It was actually a relief when I got the diagnosis as the not knowing was over

      Rachel / (in reply to Kate Cooper) Reply
  10. 1 child and recurrent miscarriages

    Pamela / Reply

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